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This Is All Kinds Of Wrong of the Day: Miss Universe Canada announced yesterday that 23-year-old finalist Jenna Talackova of Vancouver was disqualified from the Donald Trump-owned beauty pageant, but didn’t provide a reason.
“She did not meet the requirements to compete despite having stated otherwise on her entry form,” competition officials said in a statement. Talackova, however, says she knows exactly why she was disqualified: She was born a man.
The 6’1” bombshell underwent sexual reassignment surgery in 2010 after living most of her life as a woman.
She wouldn’t speak with the press concerning the unceremonious scrubbing of her profile from the Miss Universe Canada website, but did take to Twitter to bemoan being “disqualified for being born.”
Many have noted that Miss Universe Canada’s only expressed requirements are that the contestant be a Canadian citizen and between the ages of 18 and 27. Nary a mention of gender confirmation surgery as being grounds for dismissal.
On Twitter, Talackova implied that she’s down but not through. “I’m disqualified, however I’m not giving up,” she tweeted. “I’m not going to just let them disqualify me over discrimination.”
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This Is All Kinds Of Wrong of the Day: Miss Universe Canada announced yesterday that 23-year-old finalist Jenna Talackova of Vancouver was disqualified from the Donald Trump-owned beauty pageant, but didn’t provide a reason.
“She did not meet the requirements to compete despite having stated otherwise on her entry form,” competition officials said in a statement. Talackova, however, says she knows exactly why she was disqualified: She was born a man.
The 6’1” bombshell underwent sexual reassignment surgery in 2010 after living most of her life as a woman.
She wouldn’t speak with the press concerning the unceremonious scrubbing of her profile from the Miss Universe Canada website, but did take to Twitter to bemoan being “disqualified for being born.”
Many have noted that Miss Universe Canada’s only expressed requirements are that the contestant be a Canadian citizen and between the ages of 18 and 27. Nary a mention of gender confirmation surgery as being grounds for dismissal.
On Twitter, Talackova implied that she’s down but not through. “I’m disqualified, however I’m not giving up,” she tweeted. “I’m not going to just let them disqualify me over discrimination.”
[theprovince / ctv.]
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Polyamory Is About Us, All of Us -
This article by someone else explains how I feel about rules in a poly relationship.
Slowly, things seem to be coming together. After a year or so of exploration and months of dating two women, I’ve come to the conclusion that I truly am polyamorous. I don’t know if I was always this way and just suppressed the inclination due to social expectations or if I’ve adapted over the past year but it’s definitely a part of who I am.
On the bisexual/bisexy front:
Much progress.
Just…Just stop it. Please. Please stop comparing polyamorous relationships to loving more than one family member. Please. I don’t want to have sexual relations with my family members. I don’t want to date my family members. I’m sure that people in polyamorous relationships would even find this comparison offensive. They’re not the same thing. So just please stop it. There’s a difference between polyamorous relationships and incest.
The problem with this comparison as discussed with both my current partners recently is that romance and sexuality are not necessarily tied to love. The comparison works well when illustrating to someone in disbelief that they can in fact love multiple people. It breaks down when illustrating the potential to be _romantic_ or _sexual_ with multiple people. These are clearly different concepts and possibly ones that not everyone is capable or desiring of.
Bisexuality ≠ binarism.
Got it? Swell.
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Recently it’s come to my attention (not without anyone getting hurt unfortunately) that I am still a big shitty ball of shame over public sexuality, free expression, and my own bisexuality. Ridiculously, I had thought that coming out as bisexual would somehow free me of all the baggage accumulated over my years of supression. Not so, dear reader, not so.
Somehow, I thought that after coming out as bi life could remain the same; “move along, nothing to see here.” As I confront the shame that guards the exit (and stands outside the door pointing and laughing), I realize that all I’ve done is unlock the door. I’ve told people that I am bisexual but even I haven’t explored what that identity means to me and I’ve been deathly afraid to embark on any first steps into the bisexual world.
I’m not simply discussing nude men and penises either, though yes saying I’m bi means being able to shamelessly state I’m interested in those things; I’m discussing all those other items of gender and sexuality that I now have a choice in instead of blindly following the manly masses. For starters, what drives my actions? Do I act the way I do because it’s expressing who I am or because I’m trying to conform to something? If I’m trying to conform to something, is that something worth conforming to? What drives my choices? Do I make certain choices because they are the best choices for me, or am I still appeasing or appealing to others?
It was suggested to me by a fellow bisexual who was in a similar situation upon coming out that I make a list of actions that I have previously thought about as being specifically gay and as such have avoided. Such things could include getting a manicure or visiting a hair salon instead of a barber for my next haircut. If I don’t end up liking such things, so be it, but it won’t be because I’m not supposed to like them.
Additionally, I’ve decided to embark on being more publically bisexy. I am generally conservative (socially) and I’m not even sure anymore if that is something I want to be. I want to be more sexually expressive on the whole and that needs to be a big picture sort of expression that includes all my interests.
If being against treating people as things or disposable is being a One True Wayist when it comes to polyamory, I’m pretty okay with the label.
Agreed.