January 2012
5 posts
How My Dad Came Out
whenicameout:
It was at Thanksgiving and everything. Just me, my sister, and my dad.
Dad: So, since it’s sort of tradition to confess things over Thanksgiving dinner, I think I ought to let everyone know that I’m…uh, bisexual.
Me: Cool.
Little sister: What’s that?
Dad: It means I like girls and boys.
Little sister: Oh.
(my sister and I keep eating)
Dad: …and everyone’s alright with...
Link: Some Thoughts on Rules →
polyponderous:
“It’s a normal human thing, I suppose, to see the world in polar terms: if there is no monogamy, then that means promiscuity and indiscriminate shagging; if there are no rules, then that means anarchy and chaos. But that isn’t really the case.” - Franklin Veaux
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Didn't see this coming a year ago...
Tonight, I’m chilling at home alone with a stack of books and a laptop next to me. My girlfriend is off to a local kink munch to meet new people on her own and I’m amazingly, remarkably, totally okay with it. I daresay I’m happy for her to be going out and meeting people. No tightness in my chest, no anxiety, just contented calmness. We crossed paths when I got home after...
December 2011
8 posts
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Have any of my followers used OKCupid?
spacecowboywhit:
If so, do you have any tips?
Not on dating in general, but how to make the most of the site.
Why yes, fellow tumblrer. A guide has been started that I just stumbled upon recently. I second the guide’s recommendation to link to your partner(s) and have them link back to you. Mention polyamory somewhere within (I think I’ve got my mention near the bottom of the...
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Morbid curiousity
The girl I’ve just recently started dating has a large number of friends in common with me though we did not directly know each other through that circle. That circle knows me and my existing girlfriend and has been under the assumption for years that we two were monogamous. While new girl and I have not made any formal announcements about seeing each other, we haven’t exactly been...
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Feeling good
So, I’m dating a new person now. A year ago, I wouldn’t even have thought of it. During my transition to polyamory the question of whether or not I would be able to handle dating outside my original/main/primary/whateveryoucallit relationship was worrysome.
I tried dating a couple times before now and didn’t click with anyone. The first time was with a girl and I...
asknothingofme:
“Don’t assume that needs not being met in one relationship can be met in another Often, people may fall into the trap of believing that if some need is not being met in a relationship, the solution is to meet that need by seeking another relationship. This is particularly common in primary/secondary relationships, where if the secondary’s needs aren’t being met, the secondary may...
Why I love what polyamory has done to my...
jtoday:
I think polyamory is a great idea, a great philosophy, and creates beautiful relationships if done correctly. But I personally love polyamory because of how it has made my relationship with my husband so much deeper, so much more healthy, and made both of our lives a lot happier even though he is a naturally monogamous person.
Communication is essential to polyamory, and while Chris...
November 2011
14 posts
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Unmasking The Green-Eyed Monster: Managing...
a-blog-called-everything:
Bellow is an excerpt from from this article. I highly recommend you read the whole thing.
Our society is addicted to three core beliefs about relationships that are almost guaranteed to create jealousy even in the most well-adjusted people. Most of us have absorbed these beliefs without even realizing it. Identifying and dismantling these beliefs in our “heart of...
Special
uncorpsjuste:
The thing that upsets me the most about being poly is the fact that I don’t feel special to my partner(s). Since they all have other partners, it feels to me like I’m just another person they spend time with. I’m not saying that these relationships aren’t meaningful or don’t have depth; quite the contrary, I think the relationship I’m (sort of) in right now is becoming one of the...
October 2011
10 posts
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differentbutnot:
“I love the hell out of my wife. I would stab a yeti in the face with a spork for her. I want to grow old with her, get all wrinkly and saggy and fat and content beside her. So why would I want to tell her what she can and can’t do? …I may spend my nights cuddling on your couch, I may fall in love with you. But I’m not going to leave my wife.” — my husband’s OKCupid...
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Bisexuality
For at least 15 years of my life, I’ve kept my bisexuality a secret. It’s a part of me that I have never really understood or been able to come to grips with. Growing up here, as in many parts of the world still, the negative stigma associated with being anything but straight as an arrow was rampant. Children deride each other as “fags” and “homos” before they...
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Polyamory: You’re Doing It Wrong « Thought Catalog →
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Check your privilege(s) →
riotsnotdiets:
Male Privilege
White Privilege
Heterosexual Privilege
Cis Privilege
Christian Privilege
Monogamist Privilege
Binary Gender Privilege
Neurotypical Privilege
Thin Privilege
Vanilla Privilege
Average Size Privilege
Black Male Privilege
Non-Poor Privilege
Able-Bodied Privilege
American Privilege
Not saying I agree with every single one of these, because I...
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From Then to Now
Much of my exploration of sexuality and relationships has been an exercise in discarding assumptions and misconceptions adopted in my childhood and formative years.
While I was aware of dating, I had no idea how it worked. I was a hardcore computer nerd and had few friends who didn’t share my interests. In my early teen years, I discovered pornography and internet chat and mostly...
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Shrapnel Spider's Web: On Polyamory and Love →
shrapnelspider:
he’s still here. He’s willing to fight for me. He’s willing to try. He’s willing to love me despite the risky ground this entire thing is on. He’s exactly the kind of person that I want in my House. He’s exactly the kind of person that I want to share my life with. Will it work out? I don’t know. Things could fall apart, or they could become even more solidified. I’m content with...
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Responsibility and Blame
Every adult is responsible for him or herself.
This is a core concept for me in and out of relationships. In my first serious relationship it was the most important thing I learned from my partner, though I didn’t fully grasp the concept at the time. I plumbed the depths of self-denial for some time and enjoyed co-dependence for a spell before understanding personal responsibility.
In...
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