Lather, rinse, repeat.

How My Dad Came Out

whenicameout:

It was at Thanksgiving and everything. Just me, my sister, and my dad.

Dad: So, since it’s sort of tradition to confess things over Thanksgiving dinner, I think I ought to let everyone know that I’m…uh, bisexual.

Me: Cool.

Little sister: What’s that?

Dad: It means I like girls and boys.

Little sister: Oh.

(my sister and I keep eating)

Dad: …and everyone’s alright with that?

Everyone: …yeah…

Dad: Oh. Okay, good. (sits down, then stands up again) At least act surprised, come on! I’m fifty, I’ve been sitting on this shit since I was sixteen!

Little sister: (confused) But you’ve always said you wanted to marry David Bowie!

Dad: Well, I thought you assumed I was kidding when I said things like that.

Me: Nobody is kidding when they say things like that about David Bowie.

[anon submission]

Bahahaha

(via tepshie)

Didn’t see this coming a year ago…

Tonight, I’m chilling at home alone with a stack of books and a laptop next to me. My girlfriend is off to a local kink munch to meet new people on her own and I’m amazingly, remarkably, totally okay with it. I daresay I’m happy for her to be going out and meeting people. No tightness in my chest, no anxiety, just contented calmness. We crossed paths when I got home after work and I kissed her goodbye and saw her off before hopping in the bathtub.

Things seem to be going well on the dating another person front for me too. I’ve been seeing the same girl (superhero name: science-girl) for over a month and while schedules have been tight, I’ve really been enjoying the time we spend together. She has her head screwed on straight and loves cuddles as much as I do.

She and my girlfriend have met now and each seems to think highly of the other, so that’s also a good thing =).

I’ve also gotten back into pursuing my own hobbies which is another source of happiness.

I leave for vacation to a warm beach in less than a week.

Work is not too crazy and I’m very close to completing a first revision of a solo project!

I have absolutely nothing to complain about at the moment. =D

Have any of my followers used OKCupid?

spacecowboywhit:

If so, do you have any tips?

Not on dating in general, but how to make the most of the site.

Why yes, fellow tumblrer. A guide has been started that I just stumbled upon recently. I second the guide’s recommendation to link to your partner(s) and have them link back to you. Mention polyamory somewhere within (I think I’ve got my mention near the bottom of the first section) and what it means to you in brief (as there are varying practices and interpretations).

Answer every question you can and make sure to specify things like “would you date someone in an existing relationship” to have mandatory “yes” or at least “maybe” or “I don’t know” answers. If you already have a profile and have answered questions before, I strongly recommend purging all your old answers and starting fresh as being polyamorous is likely to change many of your answers and requirements. Keep the majority of your answers public so you can see others’ answers to important items.

Otherwise fill out the profile as you normally would for singles dating.

Morbid curiousity

The girl I’ve just recently started dating has a large number of friends in common with me though we did not directly know each other through that circle. That circle knows me and my existing girlfriend and has been under the assumption for years that we two were monogamous. While new girl and I have not made any formal announcements about seeing each other, we haven’t exactly been hiding our affections.

While I don’t see my relationships as social experiments, my fascination with how others around me will discover and react to these events is probably a little unhealthy.

Edit: Everything went better than expected. The friends in common found out shortly after this post and are (at least publically) accepting.